![]() That said, I'm having a hard time going through these comments and truly wanting to go back and forth, reading them all, and finally adding my two cents. I want to clarify that I am definitely not saying that it's anyone's 's simply a technical issue. I think blogging was a great idea however, because of the technical difficulties, it's really difficult to comment on missing comments or comments in email. I don’t think practicing with a friend or in a training class is really going to help because it takes away that emotion factor, and I think that is what really hinders people from having successful conversations. I know he gives ways to practice, but I think this is a skill you are just going to have to practice with in real life before you have it down. I know it is obvious, but when it comes to looking at myself, I feel I failed if I don’t do it right the very first time. I also like how the author states that practice makes perfect. I was slightly disappointed when I got to the end of the section because they just gave an explanation of what a “script” is, not how to overcome it. I got really excited about the scripts section because I do that all the time. I do like how the list factors that may prevent us from changing in our crucial conversations. I feel like this is a very similar statement to the “I don’t want to offend you” statement we talked about last chapters. In the first scenario, I felt like the person was setting himself up for failure when he said that it was a “tough subject to bring up”. I do wish they would have addressed the question I was thinking of while I was reading the book, “What if the person I am in a crucial conversation with finds these strategies condescending and get more upset?” ![]() I think that it is just our nature as learners, to question why or why not things will work… Way to address the opposing argument authors! I don’t think any of us are the type of people that are just going to believe what we read right off the bat without questioning things. Like Erin, I like how they included the questions/statements for the reasons it may not work in real life. The diagrams didn’t make sense to me, and kind of confused me, but I really liked the chart! I thought it was a nice quick reference to the situations discussed in the book, and I especially liked the crucial question column. This book is a lot of information to take in, and since, according to my sister, I have the memory of a rock, I need a reminder every now and then. Now on to a more serious note, I do like how chapter 10 restated everything. So, a quick reminder, no one should make me feel safe in PLC with a simple touch because it is considered harassment. I laughed I think it is funny that the authors felt the need to remind people that. Then they had the disclaimer that you probably should not do this at work because that could be considered harassment. Overall, I just wanted us all to be in the "know" about this so we can have more productive discussions and dialogues and all take a leadership role in those things.įirst off, I liked when they were talking about the 2 levers, and the making it safe lever, they said that a simple touch can make someone feel safe. It discusses the element of surprise and emotion that we've been noticing all along as obstacles. It gives the proclaimer that this will not be as easy as 1-2-3 whereas the rest of the book sends that message at times. ![]() This chapter should have come first in my opinion. Basically, I want to catch myself thinking these things and see if I can stop early enough to get something productive done. ![]() I understand these to just be tidbits to think about as I encounter these things. However, the solutions are a bit simple, as are some of the other scenarios and solutions. its not severe enough or it is too big of a deal. I like this chapter because as I was reading the book, I found myself thinking things like "that won't work in this situation because. I did notice that they were "scripted" and not real I guess I didn't take them as real, but more of just an example of how it would be in a perfect world. I think it is so interesting how many of you hate the scenarios in the book I never paid much attention to them when I was reading. That is why I liked when they said that doing even one of these things a few times makes you a better conversationalist. Therefore, these steps sound so simple in the book, but I know I am going to have a hard time implementing them when my emotions get the best of me. However, I also really like Carrie's point that emotion is a part of life and conversations. I liked these last chapters because it is a nice recap of everything, because like Tonishia, I really felt overwhelmed after reading this book and trying to remember all of these things as I'm trying to formulate thoughts.
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